Online Dating

Oh! Just Kiss Me!

Oh, just kiss me! she said in frustration. Why? he asked. Why? Why! Because you’re supposed to!
But I….I….
What guy asks that?
An inexperienced –
Shut up and kiss me or I’ll knock you through that wall!
But I’ve never –
Well, now’s a great time to start!
But I don’t know –
Then learn! Now get over here!
But what if I bite your lip?
What would you rather do? Bite my lip or get knocked through the wall?
Good point….
I can’t take it anymore. This isn’t normal. Either kiss me or we’re done!

The above scenario, believe it or not, IS NOT an exaggeration. There have been and still are relationships just like this. Not everyone is experienced in the field of intimacy, specifically kissing – that one plateau that leads to all else; but to some…it is one gargantuan barrier that demands every last ounce of courage to overcome.

Are you gun-shy when it comes to kissing? When you’re dating someone you like….and they really like you, are you able to identify those moments that beg for a kiss? Can you feel it in your gut? Because that’s where it is. It feels almost giddy, like a flower unfolding in your stomach. It’s an inner stir to act; to move; a physical exhibit of adoration on a higher level than just words alone could ever express. It starts with a look. A glance. The eyes of endearment and longing. A touch….of a hand, a face, the small of a back. It can be in a smile or laugh, under the pouring rain or when they first walk through a doorway. It is the soft collision of mutual energy….mutual desire.

You’ve got to seize the moment. Be bold. Take them in your arms, look into their eyes and…..kiss! Notice that I have been using the pronouns, “they” or “them”. This is because I hereby give power to all women to take matters into their own hands, should they feel the urge and be in a position to initiate.

I’ve always perceived the act of kissing to be a magical moment. On a scientific level it is the exchange of scents and biological information; an extension of inter-human exploration. On a primitive level it can be the mark of territory; the validation of an affection and of love. Kissing is important, although there are tribes in remote parts of the earth who do not incorporate kissing into their lives, culture and mores. (Should someone tell them what they’re missing?)

The lack of a kiss could have reverse or disastrous effects as well. It could be perceived that you simply don’t like the person or are not interested in them on an intimate level, causing separation. Also, failing to kiss your mate in a moment when you should, could also lead to staleness and drudgery in all ensuing moments; what might have been other future impassioned moments are instead diverted or avoided altogether…..all because you were gun-shy the first time, or the first few times. When you feel a kiss upon you or even think it, just go for it! KISS! If there is mutual affection, lack of kissing can only hurt you!

And oh! Umm…..if you’re an inexperienced kisser…..some closing advice: Don’t open your mouth too much and engulf their cheek. Don’t slobber and build a river down their chin. Don’t smash their teeth. Don’t bite their lip. Think of something beautiful…..because that’s what it is.