August, 5th 2007
Daytime Flirting….Might Lead to a Daytime Date! I have always believed that two of the best places to meet someone are either in a food market or in a bookstore. Both places are frequented by the unpretentious and unassuming during daytime hours as well as in the nighttime. For many people, especially women, the daytime is less threatening and thus, they are more relaxed. It all results in a good time to meet! So where else might you meet someone during the day? Where else could you have that accidental encounter? Unexpected flirtations are the best kind. Everything is spontaneous, on instinct. There are no expectations.
Try sitting on your front door stoop – if you have one – and watch the people stroll by. New Yorkers do this often. They people watch. They take in the many oddities that comprise people, they study them, admire them and….on occasion, are repulsed by them, but it’s always one great show! Have you tried this in your neighborhood? Usually, you will strike up a conversation, however short-lived, with at least one complete stranger, and just maybe you will find yourself attracted to that stranger.
Other excuses for being outside during the day include:
Washing your car – Drive your car to a nearby park or track; a place where you have access to water. All you need is a pail and a sponge. An abundance of people will pass by you….especially on a nice day, and especially if that nice day happens to fall on a weekend. If you don’t have a car…..well……wash your bike!
Taking pictures – You don’t have to be a professional photographer to take pictures you know! You can even substitute a camera with your digital video recorder; pretend you are the next Orson Welles (on second thought don’t do that, just pretend you’re filming nature or the gorgeous, buxom, well-shaped…..tree!)
Drinking wine, beer or having a cigar – It’s a great excuse to relax! Sit outside and wait for someone attractive to walk by…..or rather, first hope, visualize and then wait for that attractive person to walk by. You will know if they are not your type if they scoff at your wine, beer or cigar. What a great pre-screener!
Talking – Invite a friend over, one that won’t embarrass you or act like they belong in preschool. Plus, you’ll have someone with whom to pass the time!
Reading – For women this is easy. For guys…..you have no idea how much a well-read woman appreciates a well-read guy! Guys, if you are reading a book….your chances of striking up a conversation or extending the life of one quadruple! Why?
There is a misnomer that guys don’t read books. And I mean BOOKS! You know…a lot of pages in between two covers? And if it’s a novel, even better! Yes, guys…..read! Go to the park and read. Sit on your stoop and read. Lean against your car and read. Go to the beach and read. Sit on your roof, put it in your shopping carriage, be studious, look smart….and if you already are? Great!
What do you do when you meet someone during the day? You can start with “Hi”. A man is sitting on his steps with a book open and a glass of wine by his side. He spots a woman approaching and decides to say:
Hi, how are you?
Fine, thank you. And you?
I’m well. Great day to read a book.
Yes, it is. What are you reading?
Short stories by Miranda July –
Oh! I heard about those! How are they?
Very good. Different, but very good. She has a very bold style.
Wow. Do you read a lot? (This means she’s impressed!)
Yes I do – or I try to.
I know! With work and everything else, finding time is hard.
Umm…..I’m just sitting here sipping some wine and reading. Would you like to
have a glass with me? It would be my honor if you joined me? (Charm is important here!)
Really?
Yeah, why not? I’ll just run in and grab another glass. I can even bring out a book for you – but I think I’d much rather enjoy talking to you…..(Oh! You smooth dog, you!)
Okay…I have a little time. That would be nice. (Smile.)
(Man smiles back.)
(Man walks inside his home, smiles a wider smile to a successful beginning…romantic too! And when he steps back out he knows that in about 30 minutes the sun will start to set in a sky suddenly made just for them…and he knows it might be the perfect time to ask her to dinner…and then……well, you write the rest of the story yourself! Do I have to tell you EVERYTHING!)
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